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Housing changes

When the home changes shape.

A death can change your housing situation overnight — a lease in one name, a mortgage suddenly unshared, a house that's too big, or a home you can no longer afford. Most housing decisions can wait longer than they may feel like they need to.

Don't rush

Many grief counsellors suggest not making major housing decisions for at least 6–12 months after a death, if you can avoid it. Grief can change how everything looks. The house that feels unbearable in month two may feel like a comfort in month eight.

Renting

If the lease was only in their name, contact the landlord or real estate agent. The tenancy doesn't end straight away, but it can end quite quickly: the landlord or the estate can give notice, and the rules are different in each state and territory. If you lived there too, you may be able to take over the lease. Ask the landlord, and ask the tenancy advice service in your state or territory about your options. Their advice is free.

Mortgage

Contact the lender to let them know about the death. Ask about hardship provisions — most lenders will pause or reduce repayments for a period. Check whether there was any life insurance or mortgage protection that could pay off the balance.

If you're worried you can't keep up the payments, a financial counsellor (National Debt Helpline, 1800 007 007) can help you map out your options — including whether selling is truly necessary.

Downsizing, eventually

Many bereaved people find that a smaller home, a different suburb, or a move closer to family makes sense — eventually. If you can, give yourself time to grieve the home as well as the person. The house can be a loss too.

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