Text messages to send
Copy-paste messages for when you can't face a phone call.
There is no wrong way to tell people. If a text is all you can manage, that is enough.
To close friends and family
Short and direct:
“I wanted to let you know that [name] passed away [this morning/last night/today]. I'm not up for calls right now but I'll be in touch when I can. x”
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With more detail:
“I have some really sad news. [Name] died [this morning/yesterday/on date]. It was [peaceful/sudden/after a long illness]. I'm with family right now. I'll call when I'm ready but wanted you to know. Love to you.”
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To acquaintances and wider circle
Brief and factual:
“Hello, I'm writing to let you know that [name] passed away on [date]. Funeral details will follow when we have them. Thank you for your understanding.”
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Asking someone to help spread the word
Delegate if you can:
“I need a favour. [Name] died [today/yesterday]. I can't face telling everyone right now. Would you be able to let [the tennis group/the school parents/your side of the family] know? I'd really appreciate it.”
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To the school or daycare
Email or message:
“Dear [teacher/principal], I'm writing to let you know that [child's name]'s [grandparent/parent/relative], [deceased name], passed away on [date]. [Child] may be unsettled for a while and I wanted you to be aware. Please let me know if you notice anything that concerns you. Thank you for your support.”
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From bluetulipco.com/library/after-death/script-text-messages — printed 1 October 2026.
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